Ooooh, that was the most fabulous ride we might have ever had!!!

We had our lesson with Liz this morning and I had told her all my musings on the phone the other day. So she was prepared. :) Funny and I got tacked up and hacked up to the arena. We meandered around a tiny bit and walked the drums and then picked up a stretchy warm up trot and got a lap around the arena in. Then Liz got there so we stopped. Funny is always happy to see her.

So Liz mentioned that one thing I need to remember is that when I'm picking Funny up (ie.. the contact) to do it slowly and stop when she gives me the "that's all I can do for now" feeling. And then I can ask for more as she offers it. Whether that's within the ride, or the next ride, or 6 rides from now. Oh yeah... good point. The contact isn't at a certain point because we have gotten to that point.. it's at a certain point because that's where her balance is today. Oooh yes.
So I slowly gathered her up and we started our walk circle. She was really good. Very calm and chill and soft and I managed to get a lovely walk. It was maybe a hair sluggish at the beginning, but it was straight and soft and balanced. We did get a few spots on our circle where we drifted out and lost the line and then lost our balance so Liz gave me "borders". She said that we might as well give ourselves visual borders to help encourage a nice line rather than fighting. And, we know that Funny has that drift to the arena gate, so.. why not help us both out. Plus, my geometry isn't that great anwyays. Ha! Once I had my reins gathered up she told me to remember that my final step is to bring my elbows back, and usually, widen my hands. Ooooh yeah!! It works great. So I was focusing on sitting upright and square and keeping my shoulders square and slightly tilted to the inside, while keeping my chin slightly tilted outside (which, ultimately makes me square). And Funny was lovely! Then Liz said she was a hair underpowered, so she had me sit deep and up, sit slightly to the outside, widen my hands, and think "lift" and slightly close my legs. Not nagging... not bouncing.. but squeezing and holding. Oooooooh!! Funny "motored up". She sat back on her haunches and became uphill and started to march more, without losing any softness or suppleness through her topline. It felt much closer to the walk we could trot from, or canter from, or halt from, or.. .whatever from! NICE!!!! Liz reminded me that just like driving a boat. If we keep taking our foot on and off the gas, the boat is jerky, but if we softly push the throttle forward and get a nice forward surge... then slowly ease off of it but still hold it forward, the boat stays in a nice forward smooth plane. Yep! So then she asked me how that felt. I told her it honestly felt lovely but I was a little concerned that mentally Funny didn't know we were "working" yet and once we trotted, we couldn't get that nice walk again. She laughed and basically was like "I think you're wrong". Hee hee. I hope so! I hope so!.

We went the other direction and Funny was fabulous that way too. She is a little different each direction. Tracking to the left she feels like she's falling into my left leg, so I want to leg yield her out. But she's falling on her left shoulder because her haunches are falling out, so... if I keep leg yielding it's making her more haunches out. So, if I ride haunches in... it really helps her balance and straighten up. I also struggle with her being counterbent, and can't quite figure out how to get her to bend in without crossing the neck. I can... it's just hard for me. I just have to shift my body to create the inside bend... and ride haunches in, which makes it easier for her to get off that inside shoulder and then she can bend her nose in a bit more. With an opening left rein though.. not crossing over! Tracking right, it's better if I spiral in.That helps move her body underneath her balance and gets her more square on all four feet.
So then we asked for the trot. But only when the walk was good, which didn't take long at all today! And I sat the first bit to keep her soft and connected and it was nice. Then I started posting. And wow... her trot felt fantastic!! She was soft and slow and round and supple and not chompy or fussy! Her tail was slightly lifted, which Liz said was her "tell" for being soft through her topline. Jacel has noticed that too! It really was the nicest trot we've had, and the most consistently and longest we've held the trot!! So then we walked again... and lo and behold, she stayed soft and quiet. There were a few moments where she got anticipatory but really.. it only took a quarter of a circle to get her to settle and soften again. Which is huge!!! Okay.. Liz.. you were right... she is working still and didn't lose her mind! When she got a bit anticipatory... Liz said to "read the room" and if it was just anticipation... ask her to do something else, like a smaller circle. Not to punish her, but to be like.. yes, you're smart but it's not what you think it is, so instead of trotting, let's walk a circle. I only had to do that once the entire ride!

So then we cantered. And the canter felt the best it has in a long while too. YAY!!! Same thing as the walk and the trot. Same feelings with sitting back and behind, sitting to the outside, turning my head to the outside, widening my hands and slightly asking for counterbend before I ask for a transition. We did both directions and even got a lovely trot and canter afterwards! Sitting the transitions definitely helps. I forgot a few times and especially from the canter to trot, I tend to post too big at first, but as soon as I sat, she came back down to a quieter trot. Neat!
Oh, and then... two or three times in a row we added the cross rail to our trot circle and she trotted over it like it was no big deal. She didn't get stupid... didn't qet rushed on the backside... didn't start running at the jump. She was just soft and quiet. It was awesome! I tend to get a little more animated on the backside, but when I focused on keeping my posting up and down (vs forward) she was like a metronome!

YAHOOO!!!! I'm so proud of her. And honestly, a little bit me too. I'm so grateful for all that Liz has taught me and how she has reframed my mind. And I'm so grateful that she has taught me how to ride.. not just what to do. Because I have tools now! I was on the right path and things were going great.. and then I got a little greedy. But I could feel it going south, and then I was even able to correct it before we veered too far off the path! Liz got us back to where we needed to be, but I was pretty darn close! I just need to remember to take the time it takes within the ride. Get the walk first... then, and only then, go to the trot. And I don't think it's just "softening the rein"... but I do think that played a big part. I think I got focused on her "frame" and started riding her head instead of riding her body. And I think I forgot a little bit the "build it and they will come". In other words...if I do what I am supposed to do with MY body... and give it a little bit of time... she will soften and follow my lead. And when I do that, I don't really need to use my reins. I was able to have a nice soft connection today. And she was soft and seeking the connection. We were soft but not floppy reined. And when i would bring my elbows back a tiny bit from time to time, or widen my reins a tiny bit, she would soften and almost put herself in a frame!
Both Liz and I were so excited! And we were both sad we didn't have video, but we were enjoying the moments so much! I really need to start using my pivo for my lessons, but.. i hate how distacting they can be when they aren't working. We also talked about Funny really wants to be a partner now. She wants to dance!! We feel like a team now, instead of her screaming "You can't tell me what to do" and me screaming "Submit.. submit". Now we're listening to each other and waiting on each other and it's awesome! I'm so glad that I was able to stop myself before I got too far off the path.